Resistance

Bill called me yesterday to check in.

He reported that a gal named Heather from Visiting Nurses of SB came by to do her 2 hours of assistance, and spent some time assessing what needed doing. She determined that cleaning my dad's floor was the most urgent thing, and I guess she made plans to do that in the future.

Bill expressed antipathy toward Heather's visit and her efforts to help. He said something like, "I don't know what she can do to help. I can't think of anything." To that, I suggested things like cooking him some food, going shopping, taking him out for a walk in the wheel chair...

I know that it takes some creativity and motivation to think of things for someone to do to help, but to practically dismiss the service/support seems short-sighted.

Bill also seemed to be having second thoughts about the Yountville Veteran's Housing that we had talked about. He asked if he could say 'no' if he got admitted, but didn't want to live there. I assured him that yes, he could do that; and, that my plan is to look for other housing options (closer to Oakland/Berkeley) while we are waiting for his VA housing app to be processed, which might take a year.

Over all, Bill seems resistant to change and is confused by the process and options. I think he still doesn't believe that anything needs to happen.

I got off the phone feeling irritated and deflated. This is going to be one long uphill battle.